We have all been reading and hearing the phrase “love yourself” and upon giving it a deep thought, I have come to known that it can be used in various contexts and situations. However, no matter how one may define the phrase, all the definitions lead to one main purpose; to love oneself.
Accepting who you are:
When you learn to accept yourself of who you are as a person and stop chasing after people’s approval, you actually learn to love yourself.
Be your own therapist:
The conversations you have with yourself matters a lot. Talk positive to yourself, and untangle your mixed up thoughts and emotions.
Choose yourself:
It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. We often walk extra miles for those who won’t even take a single step for us. When you choose yourself and prioritize your happiness over others, and stop thinking what others would say about you, your soul attains peace.
Doll yourself up:
Taking care of your appearance is a healthy habit to adopt. However, the goal should never be to impress others. In fact, impress yourself! Be a better version of yourself inside out.
Execute all your plans:
Make a to-do list of all your short-term and long-term goals, and start working to achieve them step by step. Stay focused on your goals.
Find a hobby:
Everyone’s creative and likes to do different things to pass their time in a fun and creative way. Adopt a hobby that pleases you from within; something that can distract you from all the hullabaloo of the world around. Reading books, writing, singing, painting, etc. are some of the amazing hobbies one can adopt. As for me, after reading and writing, having a good sleep is one of my favorite hobbies. Keeps me away from all the negativity.
Go where you are appreciated and valued:
There are times when we try to fit ourselves in a company that doesn’t quite vibe with our energy. We conform to their beliefs and actions so that we don’t feel left out. Sooner or later, we begin to feel tired and exhausted thinking, believing and doing things that we don’t want to do. A company where you have to conform and change yourself according to them is not your company to sit with. Be yourself and go where you are appreciated for who you really are!
Happiness is sexy:
In her book called “Why Men Marry Bitches?” Sherry Argov made a very precious statement: “When you are happy, you are sexy.” This is true. Even if you pretend to be happy, trust me it works. Sometimes this pretentious approach of appearing happy before others makes you believe that you are actually happy. And being happy is the greatest form of love you can give to yourself.
Indecisiveness isn’t healthy:
I’ve suffered a lot due to my indecisive nature. When you aren’t sure what to do with your life, people around you tend to control you and start making decisions for you. Good or bad; try to take decisions for yourself your way.
Jealousy is for the weak:
Getting jealous is the worst thing you can do to yourself, being honest. Even if you can’t help getting rid of this negative emotion, try distracting yourself with things or activities that make you feel relieved and happy.
Kill them with Kindness:
Kindness is the greatest of all virtues. Be kind to others and yourself too. Forgive others and yourself too. Get rid of all the grudges, hatred, guilt and any negative emotion that’s residing inside you.
Learn to say NO:
Many of us can’t just say NO to the things we don’t want to do with a fear of hurting others. But, the thing is, saying YES all the time makes others believe that we are easy to manipulate and control.
Meditate often:
Meditating and praying puts your body, mind and soul at peace. So, take a moment from your busy routine to do that.
Netflix and Chill:
Watch entertaining shows and give yourself a little break. This is a part of loving yourself and quite an important one.
Obliviate the urge to control all life situations:
We have to accept that not all situations in our life can be controlled by us. And, why grieve over something that we can’t control?
Pack your bags:
We are all fond of traveling. Even if you don’t have enough money or resources to go somewhere far away, go to your best friend’s place. The goal is to make yourself happy.
Question yourself:
Sometimes, questioning your actions, choices and decisions help you assess your inner self. It helps you get emotionally unstuck. Numbness is the condition where one doesn’t feel anything in terms of feelings and emotions. To avoid that, one must question themselves.
Routine is boring:
Most of us have to follow a routine; getting up early, having the same breakfast, going to work, returning home, watching TV, having dinner and then going back to sleep. This makes us frustrated as life gets hell boring. We can’t leave our jobs just for fun, obviously, but what we can do is try to make our days a little exciting by adding some activity that isn’t a part of our routine, for instance, going out with colleagues or friends, watching a good movie, hitting a gym at least 3-4 days in a week, or maybe having a coffee in a quiet place.
Squat low:
Nobody likes to see themselves all distorted and unfit. Adding regular exercise to your daily routine will help you get the body you desire. It’s not about competition or not being able to love ourselves the way we are; but keeping oneself maintained and sexy is true form of loving oneself.
Take furry creatures home:
Many people are animal lovers like me. Cats are therapeutic creatures, and they literally help you release all the sad and hurting emotions you’ve been suffering from. They are the sweetest babies you can have around.
Unlimited dose of laughter:
Laughter is the best medicine. I love people who knows how to make me laugh, and that’s the reason why I love comedy shows more than others.
Veggies are good for you:
We often spoil ourselves with great amount of junk food and sweets. But, as the saying goes, “Moment on the Lips; Forever on the Hips!” It’s alright to treat yourself once or twice a week but eating healthy stuff (fruits and veggies) is what going to help you in the long run.
Wait for the miracles:
There are some things that take time and effort to happen. Wait patiently for the miracles to occur.
XOXO:
Remind people you care about that you love them and that you’ll be there whenever they need you. We all need this affirmation from the people we love.
You are all you’ve got:
Trust me, guys! You’re all you have, and that’s what really matters. People come and go. Some love and care for you, others don’t. Even those who love us aren’t there for us sometimes; so the good thing is, at least we have ourselves. You have to be there for yourself all the time!
Zip your mouth:
It is important to zip your mouth when it comes to your personal life. Something’s good going to happen in your life? Great. Zip your mouth and let it happen with peace. Don’t destroy it talking about it to people who either don’t care or are negative.